A compliment is something both men and ladies desire and enjoy getting. Ranging from basically "Gee, you smell great!" to "Thanks-just for being you," for compliments make us feel good about and appreciate ourselves ... particularly when they come from those we care about the most. It is sort of strange to think the biggest and best comment you could possibly give to someone is also most often overlooked. In fact, some would think it an insult at first blush, though it's so much more than that.
Therefore, what is the greatest compliment you could give or receive from someone, let's say good friends? Simple, it is "I don't need you."Now hold on a second. Do not go off thinking I have totally lost it. I realize you might be thinking I am nuts, but give me two minutes to explain and I promise you're going to have to change your mind. This is easy to achieve by simply understanding the meaning of the word need.
Yes, I know a person somewhere said "All folks want to feel needed," but that isn't exactly true. The truth is all folks want to feel wanted. See, a "need" is something which a person must have to live, to survive. And while I get that many of us occasionally feel we wouldn't be able to make it through the days and weeks without that special somebody by our side, the reality is-we could easily do without them.
Now think of this: are you with your present partner since you feel you could not survive without them simply due to the fact that they look after things you cannot or won't do or provide things you do not feel you can get on your own? Or are you with your partner because though you know you could and would survive without them, you want them in your life just because you adore them?
In the first example, it is possible your partner might soon start to think you only wanted them around for what they could bring or give to you-like a paycheck. I could not tell you how many men I have heard say their spouses only stayed with them for the money they had. On the other hand, sex is another issue which is a concern of most ladies on its essence in a relationship. Again, I've heard many more women having complained that their partner only kept them around for sexual interests.
Which would you rather have in your life? Someone that wanted you for what you could give/bring, or rather someone that wants you for *you* with no strings attached and no conditions? That is the sole reason that explains why I think that the biggest, most grand compliment you could give or be given is to love for love's sake and nothing else. So we both now agree with the phrases; "I don't need you-but I love you."
What do you think in that case?
Therefore, what is the greatest compliment you could give or receive from someone, let's say good friends? Simple, it is "I don't need you."Now hold on a second. Do not go off thinking I have totally lost it. I realize you might be thinking I am nuts, but give me two minutes to explain and I promise you're going to have to change your mind. This is easy to achieve by simply understanding the meaning of the word need.
Yes, I know a person somewhere said "All folks want to feel needed," but that isn't exactly true. The truth is all folks want to feel wanted. See, a "need" is something which a person must have to live, to survive. And while I get that many of us occasionally feel we wouldn't be able to make it through the days and weeks without that special somebody by our side, the reality is-we could easily do without them.
Now think of this: are you with your present partner since you feel you could not survive without them simply due to the fact that they look after things you cannot or won't do or provide things you do not feel you can get on your own? Or are you with your partner because though you know you could and would survive without them, you want them in your life just because you adore them?
In the first example, it is possible your partner might soon start to think you only wanted them around for what they could bring or give to you-like a paycheck. I could not tell you how many men I have heard say their spouses only stayed with them for the money they had. On the other hand, sex is another issue which is a concern of most ladies on its essence in a relationship. Again, I've heard many more women having complained that their partner only kept them around for sexual interests.
Which would you rather have in your life? Someone that wanted you for what you could give/bring, or rather someone that wants you for *you* with no strings attached and no conditions? That is the sole reason that explains why I think that the biggest, most grand compliment you could give or be given is to love for love's sake and nothing else. So we both now agree with the phrases; "I don't need you-but I love you."
What do you think in that case?
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