Oh So Stressed
Stress is felt by almost everyone (and we have a feeling those that don't experience it are probably sitting on a deserted beach somewhere sipping on an ice-cold cocktail), so to experience stress and be impacted by stress is completely normal and understandable.
However, the way in which each individual reacts to the stress they feel can be very different. Let's face it, we can all be impatient, get frustrated or cause needless conflict with others based purely on how stressed we are feeling.
When we are feeling stressed, even the smallest things can totally set us off, often leading to a verbal barrage on friends or family (or even innocent bystanders) that leaves us looking like an emotional wreck and those around us feeling the aftermath of our outburst. This happens because the stress we are carrying around is clouding our judgement and impacting on the way we view the world - which in turn impacts the way we treat others.
The major challenge with stress is preventing the behaviors it creates from becoming habits. Habits occur when we consistently engage in certain actions or behaviors over a certain amount of time. Therefore, if the feeling of "being stressed" becomes a regular feeling it may actually become the norm feeling. When that happens the individual spends their entire life feeling miserable but they aren't even aware it's because they have formed a detrimental habit.
The bad news is that habits can't be eliminated; but the good news is that habits can be replaced. If you are serious about removing stress from your life you need to get serious about replacing this destructive habit.
The Problem: I'm Being A Negative Nelly
Constant negative self-talk can really hinder our ability to live a happy and fulfilling life. Why? Well those who engage in negative self-talk tend to believe the series of negative things that they tell themselves - negative things which are often way off the mark and sometimes downright disturbing.
Among other things, negative self-talkers tend to believe that others are out to get them in one way or another (even though they clearly are not), see positive events in a negative light (which also brings others down and means they don't strive for positive outcomes because they think positive outcomes are actually negative outcomes!) and they also believe that their life is "full of stress" which they can't "handle" (even though the stress is actually just created in their own head).
This can be potentially very serious - it may also lead to being quite lonely (or grouped with other negative self-talkers - yikes there's a bunch of them - run!) The negativity tends to hang over this person like a dark cloud. However, the good news is that it can be overcome by making positive self-talk a habit.
The Solution: The Voice Inside Me Builds Me Up!
The remedy to negative self-dialogue is simple: positive self-dialogue. The hard part is executing it consistently enough that it becomes your new habit. Having just learned about the dangers of negative self-dialogue the benefits of positive self-dialogue should be clear. A regular state of optimism and positivism creates an amazing new outlook on life. Once again, this is a self-fulfilling prophecy - only this time it is a powerful positive force behind you. By having a feeling that "everything is fantastic" and "everything that happens to me is wonderful" is results in a totally different perception of life - and a totally different future for you.
Regardless of what your perception is telling you right now (that this is a lame idea of that it's a great idea) the reality is that a positive attitude leads to less stress - even though the situation itself has not changed at all. Regular positive and uplifting self-dialogue such as "I will succeed", "I will overcome this challenge", "I will prevail" or "My life always turns out for the best" will serve you in good times and bad. By making these positive thoughts your regular and consistent reaction to any challenge, your life will be better. No doubt about it. Don't believe me? Try it the next time you fail, or the next time you get criticized, or the next time you feel stressed out. They try it every day for a week, then every week for a month. I promise you that you will be amazed at what your new positive perception can accomplish.
By seeking to understand what is causing our stress we are much better equipped to find solutions and take action to turn things around. If you aren't sure what is causing your stress it is unlikely you will be able to do anything effective to address it. To read the full article and find out more please follow the links below. Good luck!
Stress is felt by almost everyone (and we have a feeling those that don't experience it are probably sitting on a deserted beach somewhere sipping on an ice-cold cocktail), so to experience stress and be impacted by stress is completely normal and understandable.
However, the way in which each individual reacts to the stress they feel can be very different. Let's face it, we can all be impatient, get frustrated or cause needless conflict with others based purely on how stressed we are feeling.
When we are feeling stressed, even the smallest things can totally set us off, often leading to a verbal barrage on friends or family (or even innocent bystanders) that leaves us looking like an emotional wreck and those around us feeling the aftermath of our outburst. This happens because the stress we are carrying around is clouding our judgement and impacting on the way we view the world - which in turn impacts the way we treat others.
The major challenge with stress is preventing the behaviors it creates from becoming habits. Habits occur when we consistently engage in certain actions or behaviors over a certain amount of time. Therefore, if the feeling of "being stressed" becomes a regular feeling it may actually become the norm feeling. When that happens the individual spends their entire life feeling miserable but they aren't even aware it's because they have formed a detrimental habit.
The bad news is that habits can't be eliminated; but the good news is that habits can be replaced. If you are serious about removing stress from your life you need to get serious about replacing this destructive habit.
The Problem: I'm Being A Negative Nelly
Constant negative self-talk can really hinder our ability to live a happy and fulfilling life. Why? Well those who engage in negative self-talk tend to believe the series of negative things that they tell themselves - negative things which are often way off the mark and sometimes downright disturbing.
Among other things, negative self-talkers tend to believe that others are out to get them in one way or another (even though they clearly are not), see positive events in a negative light (which also brings others down and means they don't strive for positive outcomes because they think positive outcomes are actually negative outcomes!) and they also believe that their life is "full of stress" which they can't "handle" (even though the stress is actually just created in their own head).
This can be potentially very serious - it may also lead to being quite lonely (or grouped with other negative self-talkers - yikes there's a bunch of them - run!) The negativity tends to hang over this person like a dark cloud. However, the good news is that it can be overcome by making positive self-talk a habit.
The Solution: The Voice Inside Me Builds Me Up!
The remedy to negative self-dialogue is simple: positive self-dialogue. The hard part is executing it consistently enough that it becomes your new habit. Having just learned about the dangers of negative self-dialogue the benefits of positive self-dialogue should be clear. A regular state of optimism and positivism creates an amazing new outlook on life. Once again, this is a self-fulfilling prophecy - only this time it is a powerful positive force behind you. By having a feeling that "everything is fantastic" and "everything that happens to me is wonderful" is results in a totally different perception of life - and a totally different future for you.
Regardless of what your perception is telling you right now (that this is a lame idea of that it's a great idea) the reality is that a positive attitude leads to less stress - even though the situation itself has not changed at all. Regular positive and uplifting self-dialogue such as "I will succeed", "I will overcome this challenge", "I will prevail" or "My life always turns out for the best" will serve you in good times and bad. By making these positive thoughts your regular and consistent reaction to any challenge, your life will be better. No doubt about it. Don't believe me? Try it the next time you fail, or the next time you get criticized, or the next time you feel stressed out. They try it every day for a week, then every week for a month. I promise you that you will be amazed at what your new positive perception can accomplish.
By seeking to understand what is causing our stress we are much better equipped to find solutions and take action to turn things around. If you aren't sure what is causing your stress it is unlikely you will be able to do anything effective to address it. To read the full article and find out more please follow the links below. Good luck!
About the Author:
HelpMeToStudy.org is the number one online directory for learning new study skills, changing your study habits and finding the best study tips available - and even better - we show you how to study. Help Me Study | Study Skills
No comments:
Post a Comment