Sunday, 12 May 2013

Self - Esteem Booster 101

By Lachlan Haynes


Attack!

Have you ever had a negative experience in relation to your 'learning' that has damaged your confidence? Huh? Negative experience? In other words, has anyone ever said to you, 'you're wrong', 'you're dumb', 'you're stupid', 'you'll never amount to anything', 'you're never going to achieve anything', 'you're hopeless', 'you're' (you get the picture).

It's important you reflect on this because attacks like this on young people have been shown to have a profoundly negative and long-lasting impact that can often remain with the person for their entire life! Comments like this can shatter self-belief and can significantly impact the way a person views themselves - particularly when delivered at a young age. When someone is told they are 'pathetic' or 'useless' or 'stupid' by a higher (and often respected or feared) authority than them (such as a sibling, classmate, parent, teacher, relative, older stranger) the individual can actually believe that to be the truth - even without any evidence to support it. The biggest problem however is that a person's self-confidence is directly related to the attitude they apply to their education (and their 'learning' in general). So when a negative comment is directed to a young person about their ability to learn and understand things, it can still be affecting the attitude they have to their schooling in high school and college.

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What Do You Say?

The esteem that you hold yourself in is a direct reflection of your feelings of ability and worth. This is very important in your studies because it impacts your confidence and your willingness to be open to learning and trying new things. Research shows there is a very strong link between students with high self-esteem and high achievement level. As expected, the opposite is also true, low self-esteem tends to result in a low achievement level. Can these trends be bucked? Yes of course they can - but it's not the norm.

Solution Time!

Let's not get all down in the dumps feeling sorry for ourselves! You now understand one reason why people feel down about their learning ability. But whether or not you feel you have high self-esteem at the moment, the real point of this article is to help build you up and allow you to become the best you that you can possibly be. We want you to be awesome, not just good. We want you to be a powerful force, not just strong. So what do you want? Let's look at some tips to help boost your confidence.

1. Remember to be positive all the time - about everything single thing! If you don't feel positive just fake it. That's right, fake it! Fake it till you make it! There's little point in being negative anyway because it doesn't solve the problem does it? It actually just makes things worse. So, try being positive about every single thing for one whole week - even if it makes you feel sick! Give it a go. See what happens. You won't regret that you did. You'll also be surprised at how it trains your inner voice to start giving you positive feedback as well.

2. Think of all the things you are good at and all the success you have created. If you're not sure ask your parents or your friends. Write these things down and keep adding to the list as you think of anything. Read the list every morning when you wake up and any time you need a confidence boost. Just write things that make you feel good and you know are true. You will find there are many more amazing things about you than you realized. If you think there isn't you're just being negative again! Focus on the good.

3. Associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people? If they're negative about you or others, they are really just down on themselves. You may like to work with them on that flaw but ultimately people like that will be like a weight around your ankles - they'll drag you down.

4. Help others. That's right others. No, not yourself. Others! You will really feel good about yourself when you do, but that's not really the point. The point is that if you want to create a great sense of worth in your life, see what a difference you can make to other people's lives. Lend a hand. Help your mother with the dishes. Help your little sibling with their homework. Do one thing for someone else every day. See what happens. Also, only associate with people who like, respect, and support you for who you are. Try to avoid people who are always looking to find fault with you. Why would you want to spend time with negative people - they'll only drag you down and they aren't worth your time.

To read the full article please follow the links below. Good luck with your studies!




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